Rumors of the iminent breakup between superstars Jay Z and Beyonce are reaching a critical mass. Like any massively famous couple, they’ve been plagued with rumors of infidelity and unhappiness throughout much of their relationship. But recently, the stories that they will divorce as soon as their On The Run tour ends have been picking up steam, thanks largely to the now-infamous elevator fight and renewed cheating rumors spurred by a song Beyonce has been singing since 2006 that apparently people have just started paying attention to.
i am embarrassed by how much i care about this
but one thing i can’t wrap my mind around…if this whole relationship was simply a business arrangement than why on earth would they have had a child together?
In April, on a bit of a whim, I ran two marathons within a 3 week span. I was unhappy with my performance at the Paris Marathon and figured the Illinois Marathon could be a bit of a redemption run …
i moved my more in depth run posts over to a new website so if you are curious about that sort of thing or if you wanna read what it’s like to start running again after a long break, here you go
Anonymous said: You should be careful. You're blurring the line between feminism and righteous ignorance. You're making me hope that young women don't read this blog.
i don’t understand why i am being ignorant. studies have literally proven that the world is a safer place than it was in the 70’s but because of the way media covers crime people actually mistakenly think the world is a more dangerous place. that’s not to say bad things don’t happen. they do every single day. people are killed, people are raped, people get cancer.
i know that because nothing truly bad has ever happened to me it is easier to believe bad things won’t happen to me. i get that. i also understand that as a woman i am more vulnerable but i am not reckless, ignorant or helpless. i simply trust my instincts. for the most part, they have yet to steer me wrong.
i believe that for the most part the world is a pretty safe place and that people mostly have good intentions. and i don’t think there is anything wrong with that worldview. i certainly don’t think it’s dangerous.
and i honestly hope women do read this blog and realize they don’t have to be afraid of every little thing. that they need to avoid cool experiences simply because they are women.
i went backpacking through europe and traveled alone on and off and at various points i couch surfed with strangers, always staying with men. people continually told me this was a terrible idea, that i was going to be raped and murdered but honestly, it was a wonderful experience that i wouldn’t trade for anything. that’s not to say i wasn’t smart about it. i only stayed with people who had several positive references and i gave my friend my account information just in case something did happen.
Anonymous said: so basically ur a cocktease
no, i think being upfront about your expectations does not make you a cocktease.
and that is such a guy thing to say.
even if i had gone back without saying anything, and not hooked up with him, i still don’t think that would make me a cocktease. women are allowed to change their minds. as are men. going home with someone doesn’t mean anything will happen. as my favorite poem says, kisses are not promises.
i know everyone seems to think that because i date a lot i am a big slut but honestly, i tend to take things slowly and have barely even kissed most of the people i date. if that makes me a cocktease or a prude well, i am completely okay with that.
seriously, get it together iphone
Anonymous said: You may disagree with this, but if someone close to you that you cared about behaved in the way you have been and then boasted about it under the context of "I did what everyone told me I shouldn't and nothing bad happened" I think you would see that as a problem. It seems obvious.
i really don’t think i was “boasting” about it. i included the detail about me going back to his apartment because it was relevant to the story.
and for the record, i understand that women are more vulnerable than men but that being said, i also think that the world is less dangerous than people assume [thank you 24 hour news cycle!] and if you do things like go back to someone’s apartment, 99% of the time everything is going to be just fine. i really don’t think it’s a problem.
i would never go to someone’s apartment without meeting them but if we spent some time together and they seem fine and i don’t get any weird vibes from them then sure, what’s the big deal?
i don’t want to cut myself off of experiences by living in fear of what might happen . i am not reckless [though perhaps, others might disagree…] but i am also not overly cautious.
if i listened to people and avoided anything that could be remotely dangerous i would never have road tripped out to seattle alone and that was one of the best experiences of my entire life.
Anonymous said: sum of us can't read and spell good & u takin bout books n reading shit makes me feel that ur invalidating my experiences. ur ability to read does not invalidate my inability. stop acting like a privelage princes
Anonymous said: check ur privelage @ da door danyell. that shit ain't welcum here.
no clue what this is in reference to
Anonymous said: Eh, you shouldn't have gone home with that guy when you already weren't into him, but withyourhalstondress is the worst.
just to clarify, i actually was into him. he explained away a lot of the weird stuff he said in the lead up to the date and he was actually really fun and charming on the date itself.
that being said, i didn’t go back with him to hook up with him, something i explicitly told him. we just went back to hang out, which is exactly what we did. we didn’t even kiss, he was very respectful.
and yeah, i guess i only get into tumblr fights with people who are kind of the worst so maybe i shouldn’t beat myself up too much. i just didn’t get why she cared so much or why she felt my response was so rude or why my “rudeness” deserved her insulting me like that.
[books i have read recently…]
a house in the sky: hands down the best book i have read all year and it has already found its place as one of my all time favorite books. it is a memoir that follows a woman who catches the travel bug eventually finding her way to more remote and more dangerous locals. the writing is phenomenal and lindhout’s love of travel is so infectious i found myself dreaming of running off to afghanistan, one of the many locals she fell in love with. lindhout eventually becomes a war reporter and while in somalia she and her ex boyfriend are kidnapped by islamic fundamentalists at which point the book became so gripping i couldn’t put it down. what lindhout was able to endure just blows my mind.
the silent wife: this one was…just okay. the characters were horribly unlikable, i didn’t think anyone was realistically written and it was rather predictable. but it was a short, fast read so there’s that.
cartwheel: this is a fictional take on the amanda knox trial and while it had an interesting premise i just didn’t like that the book was unwilling to really jump off much from there. and i am still really bothered by the lack of resolution the ending provided.
grace: i thought coddington was the best part of the september issue and this book was highly recommended so i decided to listen to the audiobook on my drive out to seattle. i liked it but i think, since i didn’t grow up in the 70’s and 80’s a lot of the references and names thrown around were lost on me. but even though i wasn’t always sure who she was talking about, she has clearly led a very interesting life. that being said, it really bugged me how coddington refused to really delve into the more interesting personal aspects of her life. for example, she mentioned an incident that led to her miscarrying her baby when she was 7 or 8 months pregnant but didn’t say anything beyond calling it the most traumatic moment of her life. really, that’s all you have to say about that? nothing about how that affected her relationship with her boyfriend? coddington also mentioned several times that she was a spendthrift and yet, several chapters later she spends an entire chapter talking about how great her cat psychic is. lady has a cat psychic! and a live in cat groomer!
americanah: another audiobook that got me through my road trip. i absolutely loved this book though, it took several chapters for me to really get into it. the book follows Ifemelu and her relationship with Obinze and is told mostly in flashback. it is a love story but more importantly, a story about race and the immigrant experience and what it means to be black in america. it sounds heavy but it is actually rather funny. this isn’t normally a genre that i am drawn to so i am glad i didn’t know anything about what the book was about before i started. i am actually surprised oprah hasn’t championed this book or used it for her book club, since it seems right up her alley. i highly recommend the audiobook, the narrator’s voice was lovely and she did different voices for each character which i really loved.
the man who ate everything: a series of essays written by the former food editor of vogue. the essays range from his exploits as a bbq judge, his attempt to figure out the best way to cook french fries, his adventure truffle hunting, what he learned when he took a course in being a high class waiter. since most of the content was written in the 90’s a lot of it is dated [he takes on the no-fat movement and he gets very excited about olestra, a fat that isn’t digested by the body…a product i have never heard of which means it must have been a giant failure] but no matter. it is hilarious.