find awe, let it shake you, melt you, lift you, then share it. - the goodlifeproject
a beautiful ache. feeling all the words.
Anonymous asked: I'm going to disagree with that last anon. There are plenty of good men out there, you just have to want them to find them. We attract to the assholes because they're fun and unpredictable (except for the part about being assholes which we conveniently overlook until it burns us). And then we fallback into the safety net with the nice boring guys who don't fulfill everything, but at least don't treat us like garbage. There is a middle ground, however, and you deserve to find it. Don't settle.
I sometimes wonder if all “the good ones” got snatched up in college and I’m stuck waiting for everyone to get divorced or something. bleak thoughts for your friday. but moments of despair are relatively rare. I have dated some guys who were neither assholes nor boring but for various reasons [I acted like a loon, they weren’t that into me, timing, I am undatable, blah blah blah] things did not work out. so I know they are out there.
I am generally pretty good at listening to my gut and not settling because contrary to what people on gomi have theorized, after spending the majority of my life single [I have had a grand total of one boyfriend and minus a few exceptions, didn’t even really start dating until after college] I am very good at being single. I actually love being single. one thing that I have learned in life is that there is absolutely nothing lonelier than being with the wrong person so I would rather be with no one at all than someone I am really forcing it with.
that being said, I sometimes wonder if I am ignoring these giant red flags with the gm and if ultimately, I am just wasting my time. it’s not that I’m settling there is just an errant thougt that pops into my mind every now and then as my family not so gently pushes me to break up with him.
*the heat went out in my apartment yesterday and I really made a mistake deciding to stick it out instead of fleeing. I should have just headed up north to my parent’s house but the gm was supposed to sleep over and more importantly, it would have meant waking up super early to get to work on time. I could have slept at the gm’s but he didn’t even get to my place until past 1 AM and since I had been asleep since 8:30 pm I didn’t feel like getting out of bed, putting my stuff together and going somewhere else.
*I should have just sucked it up because I slept in fleece leggings, a long sleeved shirt, a hoodie and someone wrapped around me and I was still cold. if it’s not fixed by the time I get home I am sleeping somewhere else.
*I have recently had a weird craving for hamentashen, a cookie I am not even particularly in love with. so weird. but I think I am going to try and bake some this week for purim.
*I have also decided this is the year that I make the guinness chocolate cake recipe I set aside three years ago. maybe it will be my reward after my 20 miler next weekend? assuming it even happens of course.
* speaking of which, even with all my outdoor running, I somehow made it through the whole winter without falling…until last Saturday that is. I was about to walk into the grocery store when the gm spotted me on the street and when I went over to say hi I completely wiped out on a huge sheet of ice. it was embarrassing and definitely hurt in the moment but it was only during my run on ruesday that I realized my shin really hurt when I tried to run. it had been bugging me a bit during my run Saturday morning so I am not sure if it’s an injury from running or from the fall.
*the pain is so bad it actually hurts to walk. I was supposed to run 9 miles yesterday but took a rest day instead and I am just crossing my fingers and toes and everything else hoping I can get it together enough to make it through 19 miles tomorrow without any issues.
*my savta got a report about the gm meeting my parents and made some comment about his looks so I hung up on her. she called me yesterday to ask if I was speaking to her which is about as close as she will ever come to apologizing. I find it hilarious that she can make an assessment that the gm is not good enough for me when she has never even met the dude. grandmas be crazy.
*I hung out with my oldest friend [and sad fact that says a lot about how few friends I had growing up/how terrible I was at maintaining friendships: we have only been friends since freshman year of high school] who very well may be the love of my life and seeing him again gave me ALL THE FEELINGS. I think the gm is thrilled he is going back to china very soon.
*currently in the midst of one of those reflective assess my life phases that is so often brought on by birthdays. but really, what has this year been all about? it’s weird to feel like so much has happened and yet in the big picture, absolutely nothing has happened. I feel like I am in the middle of a holding pattern and I am so ready for it to be over so I can move on with my life.
*I have recently been re-watching grey’s anatomy, a show I have not watched since right after the plane crash, and it has been giving me a lot of feelings. I finished the hospital shooting episode and was a mess by the end. has greys been any better as of late? is it worth it to keep going?
*that being said, I really should stop re-watching a show I have already seen and instead start watching something from the long list of how have you not seen this yet?? shows. I need to finish the wire, watch justified, the americans and true detective. am I missing anything?
The Divergent soundtrack is turning out to be ridiculously good. Check out Odesza's remix of Pretty Lights' Lost and Found for it.
the twilight films are so terrible they actually become entertaining in some weird way but I will say they are awesome for the simple fact that they created this wonderful trend of having indie artists create original music for the movie soundtrack.
hi divergent soundtrack, I think you are going to get a lot of play in my house!
Anonymous asked: Switching gears... So, the GM sounds like a really sweet, crazy-about-you, thoughtful guy. I'm a not yet married thirtysomething woman who's been on/in a lot of bad dates/bad relationships and the more I read about him, the more I hope that you don't let him go. There are a lot of jerks out there; he seems like a good one!
he is without a doubt one of the very sweetest, most thoughtful people I have ever dated. and most importantly, unlike bottle service dude who freaked me out with his over the top thoughtfulness, I really like it. he just constantly goes out of his way to do things because he knows it will make me happy/make my day easier. it’s mostly just small gestures but it often makes my day.
my typical pattern has been to vacillate between dating jerks who stomp all over my heart to nice unchallenging guys who let me walk all over them. but the gm is the first full blown nice guy I have dated that I have really liked.
there are some issues [hi religion and children!] and the highs are not as high as they were with sideburns but the lows are not as low. but otherwise, I am very content. he balances me out and we are very good at communicating which is probably how I avoided getting dumped last night which is a long story onto itself.
TL;DR: he is awesome and way too good for me so let’s start taking bets on how I am going to fuck this one up!
You’re at a party, and two Jewish kids who never met each other are off in a corner talking about their mutual friend Sam Rabinowitz.
Oh lancepants, you never fail to make me giggle.
I’m going to a jewish event tonight and I am excited to play my very favorite game!
Anonymous asked: If you think this is bad, wait til you are being questioned by his parents. You need to decide if you can be okay with the man in your life having a different religious belief than you. Whining about being engulfed in catholicism with one breath and saying the man you marry needs to be a jew with another seems hypocritical. It also seems like you should be dating a jew if that is really how you feel.
I am unsure of what exactly they would be questioning me about but regardless, I have always been very forthright about my feelings on all this stuff and I would continue to be whether I was talking to the gm or his parents.
I do not think I was “whining” but you are completely right in that it is important to know one’s limits and preferences, especially as it relates to things like religion. for this very reason I have always had a general rule against dating anyone who was religious in another religion. I have dated a lot of people who are not jewish but because they were not religious it was easier to imagine them converting than someone who was already deeply entrenched in their own religious beliefs. thus, this is the first time this has been an issue.
that being said, I don’t think I am being hypocritical at all. I think saying you have a strong cultural identity goes hand in hand with admitting that you feel uncomfortable imagining a future that involves going to church.
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Things men don’t understand #28464
But for the record, even if she wanted an abortion like an ice cream cone or a Porsche, it’d be her right to have one.
And also, at some point - probably due to insane state regulations or the Hyde Amendment or her inability to access a clinic that provides late-term abortions - she very well may want an abortion like she wants a Porsche in that they are both incredibly expensive, inaccessible, and only available to wealthy women.(via megwhat)